The past year has provided me with several growth opportunities, and I can't help but eagerly share about one big moment I had, because I know I can't be the only one who has struggled with this:

The constant need for validation.

It feels weird admitting it out in the open. But it's the reality of being human.

At some point along the way, we learn that if we do X, we get recognized or rewarded… and it feels great!

Growing up, my parents taught me to say please and thank you. So if I held the door open for someone, I expected a thank you. If they didn't give one, I felt offended. Like what I did went unseen.

I also learned that if I got really good grades and went above and beyond, there would be some reward or praise that made me feel good.

So much of this was out of my control as a kid. But it shaped this deep need for validation that followed me into adulthood.

And through enough adulting, I started to think deeply about it.

So many times I've felt the sting of doing something, big or small, and thinking, "Did they not care? Did they not even see that?"

Here's what I've come to realize: for as long as I'm living with this need for validation, I'll never truly be content.

And that's what I feel led to share with you today.

Here's what I've been doing whenever I feel that sting of not being thanked, recognized, or acknowledged:

I think about my motives before I act. If I'm doing something out of a place of love and service, it shouldn't bother me as much when I'm not thanked for it.

I talk with Jesus daily and keep him as my role model. When I'm seeking to be more like him, it's easier to let things go. I find comfort knowing he sees me and knows my heart.

I think about my baby. He doesn't know how to do much yet, and I'm still so proud to be his mom and love him so much. Then I think about God, and I remember that the way I love my baby, God loves me.

I'm not perfect. There are plenty of days I stumble and don't keep any of this top of mind.

But the older I get, the more I try to practice these things every single day. And speaking from experience, they really do help. So much.

So if you're anything like me, I hope this helps you today.

I know it sucks when you don't get thanked, recognized, or acknowledged. But remember this:

The praise and validation from those around you cannot dictate your worth.

God loves you. 🤍